Weekends are a Blessing

This weekend was nice. On Friday Bruce and I went out to dinner and had some intentional conversations. Sometimes I don't want to tell Bruce how I am feeling, I want to keep my feelings inside and I want him to figure it out without even giving him a hint. Well I have learned that is just crazy. He wants to know how I am feeling and what is going on, but I have to be intentional and tell him. He is not a mindreader. It was nice to have an open and honest conversation about where we are both at.

On Saturday I went to the DTS wives retreat. It was interesting. I only knew one other lady there and her and I talk for a little while. I met some more women and it was nice to talk with them about where they moved from or what year their husband is in in school. There were all different ages there, I was one of the youngest ones but there were women who looked just as young as I am. The speakers were pretty good. The first speaker talk about the importance of going to Jesus first. Getting to know Jesus and being satisfied in him first and foremost, before going out and trying to change the world. It was a good reminder to seek Jesus first, and if my relationship with him is first, then out of that others will see my love for Him. The second speaker was a native of Texas, and her accent gave her away quickly. She discussed how to manage your time wisely. She also discussed how to keep the house clean, how to be a good mom, and how to keep dinner on the table. It was funny. In our culture today I rarely hear about the importance of being a good housewife and mom. I mean, I feel at times it's almost looked down upon to 'just' be a stay at home mom. I really am looking forward to having children and I hope Bruce and I will have the means for me to be a stay at home mom, but I wonder when people ask me what I do, will I still say I'm a teacher or will I say I am a mom? Or will I say I am a teacher, but I am just taking some time off to raise the kids. I don't know. Will I be satisfied with being a full time mom or will I be counting down the years until I can go back to work? I guess I'll just have to wait and see.

Bruce and I had a low key Sunday. We stayed in all day (with the exception of going to church) and got some chores done around the apartment. I also ordered a cable plan for our new tv. This caused a bit a tension between Bruce and I. Bruce despises cable. We have not had cable for the past year. During our first three months of marriage I was fine with it because I was really busy with student teaching, and during the summer I didn't mind either because we were running around all summer spending time with our friends and family before our big move. But now that Bruce is in school, and my job is less demanding I would like to have cable. Bruce doesn't like it because there are so many trashy shows on, and I agree there are a lot of trashy shows, but I really like watching the news. I also like watching the kids movies that are on occasionally. So this weekend Bruce went along with my desire and we ordered the most basic plan of cable you can get. I am excited, which is kind of sad. I keep myself busy by reading, writing to friends, blogging, etc. but sometimes it would be nice to watch a little tv. So we'll see if cable rots my brain?!

I'm looking forward to Thanksgiving in a few weeks. It will be the first Thanksgiving Bruce and I have spent together (just the two of us) and I am hoping whatever I decide to make tastes good. I hope we enjoy the day and I don't miss my family too too much. Maybe Bruce and I can start our own Thanksgiving tradition this year. Any suggestions? Bruce and I got a Christmas tree this weekend at Hobby Lobby at half price, so I am going to continue the Allen family tradition and put up my tree the day after Thanksgiving!

Happy Monday!